US: Another gay teen, Carlos Vigil, 17, commits suicide because of bullying – 190713 1800z

A gay New Mexico teen reportedly committed suicide after being subjected to intense bullying from his classmates.

“Seventeen-year-old Carlos Vigil posted a note to Twitter before he decided to take his own life. Segments of that note have been cited by the Latin Post, the Daily Mail and Queerty, among other media outlets.

Carlos Vigil

The New York Daily News reports that Vigil, who would have been a senior at Albuquerque’s Valley High School this fall, was taken off of life support at the University of New Mexico Hospital on July 16.

Meanwhile, Carlos’ mother Jacqueline Vigil told local news channel KRQE 13 that her son had been bullied since he was at least 8 years old.

He had this lunchbox, a smiley face lunchbox, and people thought it was the funniest lunchbox ever, and they made fun of him for it, Jacqueline is quoted as saying. They grabbed it on the school bus and just threw it on the floor and broke it. It’s just little things like that.

Carlos’ father Ray Vigil echoed those sentiments to NBC affiliate KOB-TV, noting, “We found out three years ago that he was going through this stuff and we’ve been trying to help him every day since. We realize he’s been going through it every day since he was in the third grade, that’s a long time for a child to hold that within himself.”

Need help? In the U.S., call 1-800-273-8255 for the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline or visit stopbullying.gov. You can also visit The Trevor Project or call them at 866-488-7386.” – huffingtonpost.com

A message his family posted on Twitter:

A message his family posted on Twitter earlier today

Carlos’ Obituary and memorial page: reflectionoflife

Other Reports

Father speaks out about son’s attempted suicide

Posted at: 07/15/2013 10:05 PM | Updated at: 07/15/2013 10:16 PM

By: Chris Ramirez, KOB Eyewitness News 4


Carlos Vigil

Reporter Notebook: I found it hard writing this story about Carlos Vigil. A friend of Carlos called me early Monday morning to tell me about what happened. Later in the afternoon, Carlos story had spread and the newsroom decided that I should cover what happened for our 10 p.m. newscast.

“Carlos brother and father spoke to us outside of UNM Hospital and in tearful interviews told us about the torment he had been going through.

“We found out three years ago that he was going through this stuff and we’ve been trying to help him every day since,” Carlos’ father, Ray Vigil, said. “We realize he’s been going through it every day since he was in the third grade, that’s a long time for a child to hold that within himself.”

Ray Vigil said his son had been teased for being gay, for having acne, for a having a lazy eye, and for being slightly overweight. Carlos had a difficult time dealing with the constant teasing.

Ironically, even though Carlos was dealing with his internal struggles, he always tried helping other bullying victims. His father said he had just returned from North Carolina where he was lobbying an anti-bullying bill in their state legislature. Carlos also counseled other teens and helped them cope with their bullying.

Carlos always wanted to help other people, but perhaps his father said it best when he told us, “Carlos wanted to be accepted by all, when he only needed to be accepted by himself.”

Carlos’ organs will be donated. Carlos wanted it that way so that he could continue helping people, even in death.

Carlos wrote a note on his Twitter account before he took his own life. His mother requested we not share it and, as a newsroom, we decided to honor her wishes.

We have been asked to share some information with our viewers:

There is a memorial fund set up for Carlos at U.S New Mexico Federal Credit Union, account number 6082606.

Warning Signs for Suicide

Up to 90% of people show risk factors or warning signs, such as:

  • Depressed mood
  • Loss of interest or pleasure in usual activities
  • Change in appetite or weight
  • Change in sleeping patterns
  • Speaking and/or moving with unusual speed or slowness
  • Loss of interest or pleasure in usual activities
  • Decrease in sexual drive
  • Fatigue or loss of energy
  • Feelings of worthlessness, self-reproach or guilt
  • Diminished ability to think or concentrate, slowed thinking or indecisiveness
  • Thoughts of death, suicide, or wishes to be dead

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-TALK (8255)

The New Mexico SuicidePreventionCoalition provide free training to teach people the warning signs for suicide, and how to intervene. You can find more information on their website at www.nmsuicideprevention.org or call them at 505-401-9382. ” - KOB Eyewitness News 4

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Published on Jul 16, 2013

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Carlos Vigil, 17, put the letter up on Twitter on Saturday afternoon
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[G: I try not to comment on the news, but. Too many have lost their lives due to homophobic bullying, either by their own hand or anothers. An environment where casual homophobia & gay bullying is accepted as the norm can soon become fertile ground for hate crime.]

3 thoughts on “US: Another gay teen, Carlos Vigil, 17, commits suicide because of bullying – 190713 1800z

  1. Goaty:

    Bullying is so wrong – in all its forms. I know from being bullied (& worse) at school myself & can testify to the lasting effects it can have on someone over many years. I don’t want others to suffer the same.

    Homophobic bullying strikes at the very core of a person’s being.
    Stand up against homophobia.
    Stand up against bullying….

    Like

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